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How to Have the Conversations You Dread Having With Your Spo

 
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MessagePosté le: Mar 21 Nov - 13:37 (2017)    Sujet du message: How to Have the Conversations You Dread Having With Your Spo Répondre en citant

Hi,
For most couples, difficult conversations start badly and go downhill from there.




Why not start smart?


Before you utter your first word, set yourself up for success.


Most up of us set ourselves up for failure by coming to the table with our worst behaviors and being utterly shocked when things go south.


Instead, come prepared with a strategy to keep your counter-productive moves in check.


If you tend to interrupt, make a commitment to do more listening. If you cross-examine rather than question, bring curiosity. If your habit is to stonewall or to go on the attack, make a decision to (even just a little bit) let down your guard.


Don’t expect to feel calm.


If you’re waiting to attain some Zen-like state before you sit down to talk, chances are you’ll be waiting forever. Especially if the issue is super-charged and there’s a lot on the line.


Easy for me to say, but that knot in your stomach… it’s not that big a deal. Neither is your racing heart or your overwhelming urge to run from the room. The anxiety you feel is simply your body’s way of telling you that you’re heading into rough waters.


Rather than run from your anxiety or expect to “chill-out,” recognize that you’re anxious and boldly step forward anyway.


Taking up permanent residence in your comfort zone is a sure-fire way to stay stuck.


There is no perfect time to have a difficult conversation.


If you’re thinking that 3 o’clock will be easier than 4 o’clock or that Sunday is inherently better than Friday, it isn’t.


There are certainly times that are less than ideal, like Monday morning before work, or when you’re on your way to a dinner party.


Other than avoiding the obviously bad times, pick a time and then stick with it.


A conversation of a thousand words begins with the first sentence.


Some difficult conversations can be gotten through in one sitting and some cannot. Sometimes the first conversation merely sets the issues out on the table.


From there, you may need to take it one small bite at a time.


Trouble spots to avoid:


Don’t think your partner has to agree with everything you say in order for you to say it. The goal is to talk about your experience, which is about you and does not need to be validated.
Don’t get sidetracked by poor conversation etiquette. There’s a good chance that one or both of you will get anxious and resort to one of your counter-productive behaviors. Pause and get yourself under control rather than getting into it about what the other is doing “wrong.”
Don’t rush into problem-solving. Again, slow down and take it in steps.
Don’t discuss crucial issues in email or text!
Avoid thinking there are winners and losers. Keep sight of the fact that this is love, not war.
Keys to success:


Pay attention to the point you’re trying to make and articulate it clearly and succinctly.
Do your best to be open to your partner’s point of view, whether or not you agree with it.
Speak from your heart.
Address your partner with respect.
Be willing to look below the surface to understand what your actions and responses say about you.
Talk about one difficult subject at a time. People can get into a “while we’re at it” mentality and call up the other’s every infraction, relevant or otherwise. The goal is to have a conversation with your spouse, not to bury her.
No matter how hurt or angry you are, when you speak to the best in the other person, you increase the chances that he or she will respond from that more solid place.


Thanks!


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